The singles market of People Square, Shanghai

singles market shanghai

After publishing The Chinese Sex Symbol: What are Chinese women looking for? we received several messages of people claiming that if twenty years ago it was true that in China there was some pressure to get married as soon as possible, nowadays the situation has changed, especially in the big cities.


Even if I acknowledge that Chinese society has evolved tremendously in the last years (I’m not blind), the reality is that the pressure to get married is still there, even when it comes down to the so-called international metropolises such as Shanghai and Beijing.

But I’m not here to waste your time with my theories. Today I’ll only expose facts. If there wasn’t any pressure to get married, how the hell are you going to explain the photos that I’m sharing today?

Welcome to the “Singles Market” of People Square, Shanghai. The market opens every Saturday and Sunday and the easiest way to get there is to get off at People Square Subway Station (人民广场地铁站) and take the exit 9. You can reach the station through line 1, 2 or 8 of the Shanghai Subway.

singles market shanghai

What’s the Singles Market?

The Singles Market (yes, I made up the name by myself) it’s the weekly meeting point where Shanghainese people that have a son – or a daughter – that isn’t married yet gather for the only goal of recruiting a suitable partner.

Yup, instead of waiting forever for a marriage that may never arrive (or may arrive too late), the Shanghainese decided to take action and organize themselves to find a bride – or a groom – for their beloved child.

wedding in ChinaA wedding curriculum vitae with photo!

How the Singles Market works ?

It’s pretty simple. You prepare a “marriage curriculum vitae” of your son (or daughter), print it and display it at the Singles Market in the hope that the other parents will consider your “offer” and then arrange a meeting between your son and their daughter.

The purpose? Get them married as soon as possible.

Of course you don’t have to limit yourself and just expose your son’s curriculum. You are very welcome to take action and check the curriculum of the potential matches for your son. You talk with the other parents, exchange business cards (it would be more exact to call them “wedding cards” but, hey, marriage is business, isn’t it?), set up a meeting between your children and hope for the best.

What’s the best? To get a male heir of course. But a little girl would be ok too! After all we are in Shanghai, where women rule ; )

singles market shanghai

What contains a typical marriage curriculum vitae?

After reading hundreds of them I concluded that the most common items of a marriage curriculum are the followings:

  • Physical characteristics of the candidate: Sex, Age and Height. Sometimes you may find the Weight but it isn’t that important. You may even find some pics from time to time but hey, this isn’t a beauty context, we are looking for wedding material and, as responsible parents, we are aware that a woman that is too beautiful may be a source problem. She may even not be a virgin anymore. Well, this isn’t that important as nowadays hymens are an option.
  • Economical Position: Degree, Job and, most important, Income. Yup, this is key. Shanghai is an expensive city and our grandchildren will need shelter (so you better have a house or you can forget about my daughter), will have to get to the primary school (so you better have a car), and will need western powdered milk (so you better have a ton of cash).

    For who doesn’t understand the last point, in 2008 there was a huge scandal in China when it was discovered that the Chinese powdered milk was adulterated with melamine and about 54,000 babies ended up at hospital. Nowadays all Chinese parents that can afford it buy powdered milk from the West. They are so many that a lot of retailers in U.K. are rationing it because of the growth of the demand in China (the news is from April 2013). I’m not an expert but I heard that there in the Middle Kingdom there is a thriving powdered milk black market.

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  • Origins: This basically comes down to a simple question. Are you Shanghainese or not? Because if you aren’t then you haven’t a Shanghai Hukou (that is a household registration in Shanghai) and this may cause a lot of problems to our grandchildren as they won’t have the right to attend the best schools and so on. So, if you come from Anhui Province forget about marry my Shanghainese daughter. Unless you are rich enough to buy an apartment in Shanghai that will guarantee you the hukou.
  • My impression is that, as usual, 9s gather with 9s and 4s gather with 4s. That is, if I have a tall 22 years old Shanghainese daughter that earns 20,000 RMB per month, then I won’t settle for a short poor guy from Henan province. Oh my Gosh, a farmer : O

    However, if my daughter is 39 and has no education, I’ll probably open my heart and accept under my roof also a weaver coming from Sichuan Province.

    This isn’t a criticism. This is just life. 9s gather with 9s and 4s gather with 4s.

    singles market shanghaiAn agent at work

    What if you have no time to attend the market every week?

    No worries! This business is so popular that you’ll have no problem finding a “marriage agent” that will take care of your son, expose his curriculum every weekend, and do his best to find a suitable match for him. Kind of real estate agents.

    Now, these aren’t small agencies (just check the above photo). These guys – and girls – are handling hundreds (thousand?) of the curriculum every single week. I wonder what’s their commission. I asked around but nobody wanted to share this precious information.

    singles market shanghaDaddy doesn’t seem too happy today

    There is space for a white devil?

    I was surprised, but the answer is “Hell yes!”

    I visited the market with my (ex) girlfriend and, just to make fun of me, she started to talk with the parents of the maiden girls that gathered in the square and ask if they would accept a white devil (pointing to me).

    A couple of them didn’t reject me on the spot. On the opposite, they started to ask key questions such as “What’s the devil’s job?,” “How much does he earn?” and this kind of info. One even asked for my phone number but I kindly refused. After all, I have no hukou!

    Some final thoughts

    Yes, Chinese society has changed a lot, in many aspects much more than Western society. However, there is still a lot of pressure, especially when it comes down to getting married and giving an heir to your parents. It comes down from Confucianism. It will probably change in the future, but it will still take time.

    And yes, if you are dating a Chinese girl that lived abroad or, for some reason, is very independent, it’s possible that she doesn’t feel any pressure to get married nor see herself as a shèngnǚ, a term that means “leftover woman” and that encompasses all the ladies that at the age of 27 aren’t married yet. I know it quite well as my last Chinese girl is technically a shèngnǚ and doesn’t give a fuck, she just lives her life on her terms. However, this doesn’t surprise me at all, she lived seven years abroad, she speaks five languages and she has an income way beyond average (even for Western standards).

    Strangely enough, everybody talks about leftover women but nobody seems to pay attention to the pressure that Chinese guys must hold up. Because the truth is that they have the same obligations as the ladies. This is one of the reasons for which gay Chinese men often decide to get married and have children (often with gay women so there are no sexual expectations both ways).

    Finally, I’m not surprised that in China divorces are quite common and keep rising (according to a survey almost three million marriages ended in divorce last years, with a 7.65% increase from 2011). If you are forced to get married too young and for the wrong reasons you are much more likely to choose the wrong person!

    Do you have a Chinese girlfriend or boyfriend? Does she/he feel the pressure to get married as soon as possible?

    Photo Credits: Photos by Sapore di Cina

    3 thoughts on “The singles market of People Square, Shanghai”

    1. Thanks for the info. I feel so sad for all the people, who are looking for something at the market. It’s sort of put me off Shanghai! I see so much unhappiness everywhere in the west, and now we find that the east has it’s own problems like you describe. People should just grow and develop to be the best they can be, without all of this “pressure” nonsense. That’s what I think !
      I suppose I am just very simple/stupid….I personally don’t think marriage is a business either. I believe if two people are attracted then that is enough….but that is just my opinion , which comes from me heart. I do know that my mum and dad were married for 48 years and it was only when mum died, that they were separated. I also know that their marriage wasn’t perfect, and that they came from very different social backgrounds!
      Thank you for your honest article! Please Keep the info coming!

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